What to quit to get ahead?

New idea: ‘strategic quitting’ (Sometimes You Have To Quit To Get Ahead)

This is difficult to fathom. I’m not quitter. When I make up my mind about something, I stick to it for a long time. No matter how tough, I will carry on. But looks like sometimes you gotta quit things that are getting you nowhere.

This is not about giving up because its hard. It’s about not wasting more time and effort on something that is holding you back from the life that you want. I need to find some time to figure out what I need to quit – materially, emotionally, and physically.

Life is too short to be unhappy or to have regrets. Give the last try to what you think is important to you. If you have tried your best but it still doesn’t work, perhaps it’s time to quit and move on to better things.


Vote with your wallet and mouse. The world is fuelled by economic gain. Do not pay for or click to read/watch things that you don’t want to see more of in this world.
 
Things I’ve quitted:
  • Linkbaits
  • Badly written/gossipy blogpost
  • ‘News’ from unknown sources
  • Sensational songs e.g Famous by Kanye West
  • Instagram of celebrities with opposing values 
Focus on:
  • Good/classic books
  • Reputable publications
  • Thoughtful blogs e.g Brainpickings
  • Pleasant music
  • Positive IG accounts 
Pay for/ support:
  • Environmental-friendly artisanal products e.g handmade soap
  • Charity/religious fund
  • Organic produce/ free-range meat
  • Small local business
  • Plays/ concerts
Things to buy less of:
  • Mass produced clothing
  • Unnecessary FMCG products
People to see more of/ initiate conversation with:
  • Those who are caring, encouraging, and respectful
People to see less of/ talk less to:
  • People who are emotionally draining and/or indifferent.

#choosequality #qualityoverquantity #curatedmind #strategicquitting

An indestructible sense of wonder

A wish I have for myself…

A child’s world is fresh and new and beautiful, full or wonder and excitement. It is our misfortune that for most of us that clear-eyed vision, that true instinct for what is beautiful and awe-inspiring, is dimmed and even lost before we reach adulthood. If I had influence with the good fairy who is supposed to preside over the christening of all children, I should ask that her gift to each child in the world be a sense of wonder so indestructible that it would last throughout life, as an unfailing antidote against the boredom and disenchantment of later year…the alienation from the sources of our strength.

Rachel Carson

Small Home. Alternative Lifestyle

My friend built a little house from scratch! It’s too cool, Atiqah Nadiah Zailani!

 
I like the alternative lifestyle that some of my friends lead. It’s not the typical work from 9 to 5, buy an apartment and car, get married, and have kids (though there’s nothing wrong with that and I admire the endurance and stability)
 
I find inspiration from a different lifestyle i.e finding work they love (that may pay less), not have a car, homeschool their kids, etc.
 
This reminds me of Jean-Paul Satre who said that we are freer than we think. We have choices in life though it seems that we don’t. We don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.
 
At one point I was very interested in small spaces. Then recently I realise it’s not for me. I love space. A huge kitchen to cook together with my family. A big shelf to put all my books. A large garden to plant edibles and hunt snails.
 
It’s nice to know that there is no ‘standards’. You don’t need to want what everyone wants. But if you do, it’s ok too. Everyone wants different things. We just need to know what we want for ourselves. And that requires a lot of self-discovery…

How much is my time worth?

In a capitalist society, everyone has a price tag. You are worth how much the system is willing to pay for your labour.

At times, you have the freedom to give a set of numbers to tell others how much you are worth (for x amount of time/work).

I find it so hard to put monetary value to my time; it is worth much more than whatever I’ll ever charge.

Be a polymath, not a generalist

Thoughts from this article: People who have ‘too many interests’ are more likely to be successful according to research

“It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change.” -Charles Darwin

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Now I don’t feel too bad in my recent obsession with philosophy and all the random interests I picked along the way e.g gardening, calligraphy, finance… No knowledge is useless. I just need to use it and use it I will!

What is success?

To laugh often and much;
to win the respect of the intelligent people
and the affection of children;
to earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;
to appreciate beauty;
to find the best in others;
to leave the world a bit better
whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch,
or a redeemed social condition;
to know that one life has breathed easier
because you lived here.
This is to have succeeded.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson